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[snapple candy]

Good morning to you all too and thanks for kind words and support from you all. Happy B-day to you chefette!! Catherine hope your job improves or you can walk if you need to since it is causing so much stress. There is nothing worse than being at a job where you are not treated with respect and dignity. I got a call this week for another job and I am hoping I get a call back for interview.
I will probably speak with disability attorney to start to SSDI process as well as am in process of drafting/ filing motion to get correct amount of child support. Lets hope the judge thinks the same as you Chefette as far as a good case for hardship. Last time around, I had to get food stamps since my ex was was stopping payment on child support checks and had to file BK. They totally screwed me then and almost lost my house back then. They are retaliating since I filed complaints against them for their wrongdoing. I imagine they might do it again, but I will have more evidence of their wrongdoing in the end when it comes to my recovery efforts.
This business of home schooling my daughter is thrown me for a loop but school has provided me with a tutor and I have been busy reading up on disability laws and my rights as a parent to get proper education for my daughter. The schools arent so willing to give you the services and you have to fight for them. Something I am good at but tired of doing. So far, they have an idea I have some legal background and experience and have been pretty cooperative.
My daughter is falling behind and franklinco, you are correct, the medical problems are making it too challenging in her regular school environment. Luckily, my daughter's managing doctor has just started a support group which we went to last night and she and I able to connect with others in same boat. Mine is one of the few still attending school part-time. It is impacting all these kids socially because they cannot do what all the rest due to their fatigue problems. Luckily for my daughter, I used to run non-profit for patients with liver disease and familiar with navigating chronic illness and medical system. Getting her to comply with meds and taking better care of herself nutritionally are the biggest challenges. Teenagers are not all that cooperative or compliant. Spending a few days in Seattle is our sort of mini-vacation on a shoe string. My girls are excited about the shopping possibilities although no doubt it will be hard not giving them much to work with. One daughter has figured out how to score big in the thrift stores. Neither one has had a decent haircut in well over a year. Thank god my older son doesnt want to join the girls otherwise he would be hitting me up too. Teens dont exactly get the concept of NO, we dont have that much money and mine have no clue how bad things really are and that we are on the verge of losing the house.
Chefette, I imagine I will have some hefty dental fees to when I come up for air. I hear most dental policies only cover about $1000 per year. Maybe $1500 if you go to substandard dentist. You know my old dentist told me dont get dental work done in Europe, that it isnt that good. You heard this?

[snapple candy]

Chefette,
I did realize we were blathering either. He was the one whom chimed in about our "exit" plans and seemed to have an issue with it which is is fine, everyone has their opinion. Sounds angry and a personal issue. Attacking others in such a way is mean and uncalled for. I enjoy our being able to so-called blather with you. I have found it very supportive and us all being able to share our stories with each other helpful. Better get to work, dont need no more flaming today. Take care chefette.

[KT in CA]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TEXAS!!!!

I've been pretty busy at work, but I just want to check in and let you all know I'm still around. What did I miss? I noticed you guys talking about someone making a "blathering comment"? What is that about?

Nothing new on this end. Just keep on keepin on. What's up for today Texas? Anything special? I buzzed through the posts but didn't see anything about what you are going to do today. Too bad we all couldn't get together for a big birthday lunch. Maybe one day.

Have a good day everyone and find those silver linings.

Karen

[chefette]

Snapple,
I swear the more I find out about your story, the more my heart goes out to you. I have 2 teens myself, 14 year old girl and 15 year old son. "NO" is not in their vocabulary, and immediately after the "NO" is there rebuttal of "WHY NOT" and that drives me crazy. UGH.

I cannot imagine how you deal with it all and then to have to fight for child support, makes me want to scream! I hope you get what you need through all of your hard work and the good fight, but I do understand that dusting yourself off and going back into battle is hard after doing it time and again.

I do not know about dental work in France. LOL, I do know that the condition of French teeth, are not up to par with our shiney overly white teeth here, but I think that may be more of a choice. I have spent time in small villages and I can tell you, they could do for a trip to the dentist, but I think they would rather spend their time doing something else.

As far as Dan the "blather" man, I found that comment just plain rude. My mother always taught me that if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all. Besides, to use the word "blather" suggests to me that he might have issues. Texas.

[chefette]

Karen,
Many thanks for the BD wish and glad you are doing well. The "blather" comment came on the "revolution" thread. Aint no thing, had me upset for about 30 seconds. Its all good. Had no plans today, will be going out for FABULOUS SUSHI on Sat nite with hubby. YES!

[KT in CA]

Okay. I just read up on the "revolution" threat. That comment really irritates me. How dare he say something like that? Clearly he has no idea how much we all have come to value this "daily blathering". Maybe he just feels left out. Come on over Dan! Join our party. You might actually lighten up a little bit after you spend some time with us.

[snapple candy]

I thought about this comment all morning and it really disturbed me although I am over it. I suppose I have found this a "safe" haven to discuss mortgage problems. Along the way, we share a little about our lifes and support each other. That is what this is all about. I thought that was what this list is all about. What bothered me was that the comments were not delivered in a constructive, supportive way and they could have been a kinder, gentler way to tell us to take our blathering elsewhere. It is an administrators job to do that appropriately. It was nasty and attacking. I dont think chefette and I deserved to be treated in such a disrespectful way. I hope Dan is just having a bad day and taking his anger and issues out on us is a passing thing. Others dont deserve to be treated that way either. I think it a "safer" thread over here.Nice to be here with you all.

[KT in CA]

My thoughts exactly. I would think a "moderator" would not be quite such an attack dog. We aren't doing anything wrong here, and in fact WE are the ones that had the idea to move it over to this Lounge forum. This thread was originally on the Deed In Lieu forum and *** moved it over here for us so we'd be out of the way, so to speak. I thought this was the place for what we talk about here, but if it's not, then where should we go? And those of us who talk here each day also contribute to any of the other threads and forums any way we can. I thought his comments were mean-spirited towards you guys. You know what they say...there's always one.

[Moe Bedard]

I agree that was uncalled for and I have already taken care of it.....
please don't hold it against him............he is a good guy just having a bad day, we have all been there in these tough times...



Carry on and please continue to talk about whatever you like.......I love this thread and the way you all support each other, it is wonderful to see ..........

[KT in CA]

You are right, ***. We all have been there. We had hoped that was the case...that he was just having one of those days. Thanks for your blessing on this thread. It keeps us sane!!!

Karen

[Catherine]

Good afternoon?

I am so confused trying to find out who Dan is what he said and why he hurt my friends? Has this person's post been removed? Did I understand someone made it clear they did not approve of us chatting here? That is really quite sad. Coming here being REAL with other facing this together has been such a lifeline. If we get off subject to share we are people going through a rough time or need humor to put off our realities isn't that what we are here for? The house stress on top of Mom's dealing with teens, illness, family, work, no work, scared of not making ends meet we can all relate on some if not all subjects brought to this table. Again I did not read this person's post, but you offended my dear friends uh bite my grand piano. Our lenders or so called loan servicers blathering is the reason we came here!! Finding kind understanding people no matter where we are in this is a blessing and the best of silver linings when we can't see one.


Yo Karen good to hear from you Has witchy poo got to see her new digs yet? *** thank you for enjoying us caring about each other so much. Snapple candy your a perfect fit here So glad you joined us with your support and understanding. When it comes to Cactus and Jim (franklinco) ya just gotta love those guys They are such an awesome balance we ladies need Missing you Paula

Okay birthday girl sushi? Gross I hope your special Saturday night is just that. You have time please go get arrest me red I too wish we were with you today to celebrate. If I had any cake you know I would have it at this moment for your day........just for you, wink, wink


I broke down and called my boss. Either he was blowing sunshine to an almost crying woman or he heard me when I explained what this job has turned into with the added pressure that could be behind more mistakes being made than ever. I straight up told him I feel like an accident waiting to happen, fear in my gut and worried the moment I start my work day. Then I went on to say I was not the only one feeling it. We temp's across the board are. He made it clear over and over he has zero issues with my job performance and in fact will be sending an e-mail out to say back off it's all good. I HOPE he meant every word he said. My job is not fun.
There is unseen risks and hazards everyday. If we are doing a good job stop trying to break something what works. At least that is how I see it plus I may be overreacting from more stress being added into my little world. All right I am overreacting. but let me have something that goes right ya know?

Another birthday wish and hug Texas!!!!! Catherine

[pjd123]

Texas, Happy Birthday! Sorry I'm so late in getting here this evening and I hope you have a great sushi date!

Paula

[chefette]

Oh no Catherine, the remark came from another thread as Snapple and I were chatting and we got a bit off the basic theme. Has nothing to do with this thread.

[chefette]

Thank you Paula! I love love love sushi, but no sake bombs for me!

Good Morning Catherine,
You are a fighter, I hope your boss takes good care of you. You have way too many things on your plate, you don't need people holding things over your head at work and not appreciating what you do every day.

I have to run out early this morning, meeting some fix it guys at the rental. If I have time, I will do something for myself as seeing the only thing hubby and kids did for me yesterday was to remind me that I turned 50. Not even a bloody card. However, had lots of calls from good friends and my family so all was not lost. I also have to give punishment to my darling daughter for doing something that I consider really bad and I have to do it in a way where hubby does not get involved, or she is dead meat. Oh the joys of motherhood.

***, thank you of supporting us here on this thread, it really helps us a lot to have a place to come to so that we might vent and help each other.

Have a good day everyone. God Bless..........Texas.

[Catherine]

GOOD morning back at you

You know the best part of your last post? Regular lifes issues. Good luck dealing with your teen. The more I kept from Dad the less drama that got put on me, however there were times they needed a good dose of stop walking all over Mom. Swear Texas when they called to check in or ask to do something and Dad answered the phone they always asked for me Oh that balance act was not fun. I even used to think these are OUR children do step parents have it better cause we sure can't agree. Plus when we would go in our bedroom to try to come out and show a united front they heard us yelling and played us against each other. Yeah, those were good times


For the moment I do not feel an extra 100 pounds on my shoulders before I get ready for work. Hopefully myself and my coworkers will stop feeling punished for working hard. The slackers, lazy late people are totally off the hook for being looked at. The underline message is if you work hard they we need to pile more on you.

I hope since you special day was put off until Saturday the whole day is about you. They can kiss your feet if you take my advice
I am sorry they brought up the "F" word.

I am really glad *** chimed in to support you and Snapple candy. Nice to know she has our back here too

Paula thank you for saying hi. Was missing you way bad

Catherine

[chefette]

Thanks again Catherine for the kind words. Again, I am getting real tired and to use Paulas' words, I have an eerie feeling of disconnect.

Hope to chat soon with some happy news rather than this 'down' stuff.

Texas.

[Catherine]

Sweetie we are here for the down stuff too. Putting up walls, feeling numb to it all I think is called survival mode. One of the main reasons I called my boss yesterday was I needed to pull over for heading towards a major break down. I parked my truck and called him. I had no business behind the wheel. I get what your saying. The fact is we are here for the ups and knock you downs. Besdies from the fun times we share this is what we are all about. Homeowners facing a loss so deep feeling out of control helpless with that never ending fear in our guts to hold our families together the best way we can. There is not one person here that has not been affected on levels so deep only they know how bad it gets. We are not alone!!! Across the whole United States share what each of us feel. We have the blessing to say it out loud instead of hold it all in. Anyway please do not feel bad for not being happy everyday we face this. I honestly do not care where you are in your head, what I do care about is lending an ear and telling you we are here. That came out wrong, but I meant to say your well worth the good bad and ugly because truth of the matter I value your friendship, respect your opinions and know when I am down your there too. Find that damn massage chair for one hour.,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,PLEASE Read a trashy romance book the hero like Moe saves the families and their homes, Catherine

ps Darn it that last part came out wrong too, but you get it right?

[chefette]

I get it, thanks. Now I really got to run. Later.

[KT in CA]

I so wish we could exchange personal info some way. Texas, you need a good dose of Twilight. I wish I could send you the audio book, or the audio book on iTunes. It takes you away from the madness for awhile. Don't ever feel bad about feeling bad. That's why we come here! A safe place to feel bad.

And why is it, my fellow moms, that the children ask for us so much of the time? What is worse, my 5 year old will walk RIGHT PAST MY HUSBAND and ask me to do something for her, when he is up already and closer to what it is she wants. Glad to see that my kids are not the only ones that do this. I have often said I feel like a single parent. Apparently no one else in my house can dish out ice cream. And Witchy Poo only asks me about boy things and then says, "Don't tell dad." Um, hello...he's your father. Of course I'm going to tell him.

Speaking of Witchy Poo, nope she hasn't gotten to see the inside yet. It's driving her crazy of course. I expect we can get into the new place in about a month, so she just has to suck it up for awhile longer. She decided last night at 8:30 to finally clean the rat hole of a bedroom I've been begging her to clean for 2 weeks. Outside of her room this morning was a big bag of trash and 2 loads of laundry. Funny thing is upon entering her room this morning, it doesn't really look that different. And she doesn't want me cleaning because I don't even look. Unless it's money or a gift card, I just throw everything away. I mean everything. I swear, I don't know how rats have not infested her room yet. I try not to let it bother me and to pick my battles wisely, but I worry that it will become a health hazard. I need to get one of those toxic waste signs and hang it on the outside of her door. Seriously.

Beautiful day today in No Cal. Hope it's nice your way Catherine. Paula, you should be having nice weather too, huh? And Texas hope it's clear skies for you today. Everyone else, wherever you all are scattered, hope it's clear skies for you all.

Have a great weekend everyone. Find the silver lining!

Karen

[snapple candy]

Hi all,
Thanks for all your kind words again(you too Texas). I too wish we could exchange personal info in some way. Maybe we could all set up emails we can post so we can sometimes share in more privacy and safety.Thanks to *** also for having our back on this one. Even though I have been poking around here in these threads for a couple months, I still do not know all the ins and outs and ediquette (sp?) on the list. I did not know that this thread was created for our little chats. Had I kindly been informed or educated about this, I would have taken it elsewhere. Now that I know, I will be more cautious and aware where appropriate place to share more is.Catherine, hang in there on your job. KT I love your "witchy Poo" stories. I have a 15 year old girl whom can be a twin. Im in central Oregon, tis beautiful day here too but cold. Im off to Seattle to take daughter to docs appt. Wont be around for about a week. Have a good weekend.

[pjd123]

Good morning all,

Yes, its a beautiful day today. We may get rain next week, but its great for now. Sorry I haven't been around lately, like Texas, feeling the disconnect. The sunshine really helps though, so theres my silver lining - SUNSHINE!

Texas, I hope you family really comes through for you the week-end. If not they owe you doulbe on Mother's Day!

Catherine, how are you today? Sounds like work has been difficult. Just what you dont need or deserve. I'm so sorry. My heart goes out to everyone that has job problems and lack of job security. My husband and I are so blessed to have the employment security that we do. I work in a retail call center and am suprised by how busy it still is, another silver lining.

Hi Karen - your kids sound just like mine. We tought them to come to us for everything by being the good mothers that we are. We cater to every need from their first breath, so they really don't know any different I guess. Now I'm working on trying to get Bird to do things for himself. He's getting better, but I still do too much for him. I told my husband the other day that I do it because it makes me feel needed and right now I need that.

Well, off to get allergy shots.

Paula

[chefette]

Karen,
lol on trying to get them to clean anything. But boy oh boy do I understand the rooms! Exactly the same with my daughter, (she is a bigger piggy compared to my son) She will clean her room (uh once a month maybe) and out will come bags of garbage and laundry and I swear, just as you said, there is no difference! I tell her flat out now that if she doesn't clean up her act, I shall take all of her crap and pitch it out of her freakin' windows, straight onto front lawn so all the neighborhood can see what a slob she is....its kind of a Brooklyn Italian thing. Anyway that usually gets her somewhat motivated.

Paula,
Its always so nice to hear your cheerfulness come thru here, and that makes me feel good. I know someday we will all be laughing out loud about this whole thing, right?

Snapple,
I hope your trip goes well and you can give us some good news of some kind when you return. Look forward to you checking back in.

Gun range tomorrow morning at 9am, lol had better not have too much wine this evening. LOL Shooting a pistol always reminds me of the movie, '*** Ballou' any of you remember that one? Best line, "He did it, he missed the barn!" God bless.............Texas.

[cactus77727]

Ah shoot Chefette, I missed your b-day yesterday. I'm sorry. Happy belated birthday to you anyway! My wish for you is for better times ahead, more joy, (and perfect 250 qualifing score everytime. I don't know if you'll understand that, but you might).

I hope you have fun at the range. There is a gun club I used to be a member of here in Phoenix. On members' birthday, you'd get to shoot your choice of fully automatic weapon with free 50 rounds. A couple years back, I choose to shoot the MP5. Oooooh good times. For pistoles, I'm partial to the Beretta FS-92 line, which I mention because you are Italiano.

Hope you enjoy blowing some targets away. See if they have any with Wall Street bankers on them, instead of the mean looking street dudes. Focus on that front sight!

[franklinco]

Happy Friday everybody. Each day you hear about bad things mortgage companies try to accomplish, like running two sets of books, actually three sets of books. One book is for outward observation, one book is for online data representation and a third is a super escrow account where your payments fill this bucket.
Outwardly they seem to follow the law, the other two bookings are a little bit illegal perhaps?
I smell some type of conspiracy going on. Anybody else see anything wrong with lenders/servicers?

[chefette]

Hey Cactus,
Thank you very much! Haven't a bloody clue about guns, ammo, et al. But I am soon to find out. I figure I had better learn because it would be my stupid luck that I may need to use one and I would wind up shooting myself or the ***. If I got rid of the *** and got myself a rottie or German shepard, I might forgo the guns, but Budda (the ninja ***) might not appreciate it too much. Serious, yesterday my neighbor came over to tell me that someone had tried to break into their home, in the middle of the afternoon! There were 2 of them and got scared off when the son heard them at the back door and yelled out. OK, that creeped me out.

Best part Cactus will be putting faces on targets, thats got to be good for blowing off steam. Indeed, I will focus on that front sight. Thanks again. Baretta....lol.

Oh, how is mom doing?